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Feb 10 2017

So…things are not right, part 1

Have you ever been so lost that you do not remember what you enjoy anymore?

Have you ever been so fed up with a person that you felt guilty for setting limits about how much time you will spend with them?

Have you ever known that you have to make a change in your life, and it did not matter how hard it was going to be?

I am not sure why it takes these extremes to get my attention and to make decisions, but I must own this tendency completely.  I guess I never respected people who act rashly, and I over-compensate a bit by tolerating things too long and waiting to see if things improve before I act.  I will also admit that it is dreadfully hard make a decision that will impact others and cause pain to the people I love the most, even if it becomes a question of survival.

For now, I only have some very limited suggestions for how to move through this period, and here they are:

  1. Remember, this is not permanent, it will pass.
  2. Get quiet, and name the fears you have.  Once you see the list of worst things that could happen from your decision, you will be in a position to assess them rationally.
  3. Decide your preferred outcome, and act accordingly.
  4. Make the effort to preserve the relationships that matter to you.
  5. Love yourself through the process.
  6. Listen every day to motivational messages, laugh with friends, and find things to be grateful for.

Some suggestions for how I did these things to help myself get through a rough spot, check out the follow up post here: So…things are not right, part 2

Written by midlifeawakening · Categorized: Self improvement

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