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Jul 06 2016

There are 2 types of people: Those who figure stuff out, and those who wait for others to figure stuff out.

Written by midlifeawakening · Categorized: Mike's Maxims

Jul 03 2016

San Antonio

Heading home tonight from San Antonio.  I took my family there because my daughter is involved in competitive dance, and there was a “Nationals Elite” competition there.  San Antonio is only about 3 and a half hours from Houston, so its not a bad location for a quick get-away weekend.

Here are the challenges with our trip:

  • We are here for a dance competition, so we have to be around for unpredictable periods of time.  The scheduling on these events is never what you would hope for, because it is complex and chaotic with so many dancers, teams, and all that goes with those things.
  • We are downtown for the dance competition, so getting around means we are walking, or dealing with very slow traffic.  I will add that San Antonio drivers seem very courteous and pedestrian-friendly, even if the pace is quite slow at times for those of us who are from more bustling, uptight cities.
  • There are bus routes and trolleys, but picking those up at the right locations when you are not used to the city or the trolley service makes it likely you will be approached by people selling guided tour bus and trolley rides.
  • I was super busy in the weeks prior to the trip, so I did not get a chance to plan my site seeing.  So, I was making it up as I went.  This works for me traveling alone, but is not great when the family is looking for me to lead them in the adventure.

Here was my rough itinerary:

  • Get daughter to her dance events and practices.
  • Deliver snacks or external battery pack if it is forgotten, for when her cell phone dies.
  • Visit the Alamo
  • Visit Tower of the Americas
  • See the city a bit
  • Enjoy some down time.

Here are the outcomes for the itinerary items:

  • Get daughter to her dance events and practices.
    • Success!  She made it to all events that were scheduled more than 12 hours in advance.  One event was announced at 1 in the morning via email for early morning the following day, so that one, we did not make.
  • Deliver snacks or external battery pack if it is forgotten, for when her cell phone dies.
    • Success!  Snacks were delivered when needed, battery provided if needed.  On the way back from delivering the items, I saw the first cattle on a sidewalk since I returned from Mumbai.  imag0669.jpgOk…this bull is not alive, and that is a big difference from India!
  • Visit the Alamo
    • Success!  Made the tour early on Friday morning, no real crowds, so it was easy to get in and see it.  The next day was July 2nd, so the 4th of July crowd was insane!  Glad we went on Friday.Alamo_pano
  • Visit Tower of the Americas
    • Fail!  Despite purchasing tickets at a discount on Group-on, we could not get up on the observation deck.  The Tower box office was not selling or redeeming tickets for the observation deck, so we could not go.  No explanation was given, just that they might start selling tickets again in 45 minutes or so.  Very disappointing.
  • See the city a bit
    • Success!  I walked the city streets looking at various things with my son and daughter at different times, and that was great.
      • My son and me tried to get into a math teacher convention, but they were checking for ID and we could not get any “math swag”.  Oh well, maybe next time!
      • My daughter and me enjoyed a Starbucks drink and looking around, and talking.
      • Here is a picture of the Alamo Cenotaph
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  • Enjoy some down time
    • The kids wanted to check out the mirror maze on the Alamo Plaza area.imag0670.jpg  A view from inside the mirror maze.

 

Final verdict for this trip:  I enjoyed the time with my family.  San Antonio would be a great town to visit for 2-3 days, on a non-holiday weekend, in a month other than July or August, because it is very, very hot and you have to walk a lot.  Maybe staying out of Downtown would be more my style also.  Maybe one of the Hill Country area bed and breakfasts would be nice, with a tour of local wineries?  I might give that trip some thought for another time.

Hoping to get home at a decent hour tonight, so I can get up early tomorrow and go for a motorcycle ride…its been a bit too long since I got out there.  Here is a picture of my steer of choice currently:

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Until next time!  Try to make some memories of your own.

 

Written by midlifeawakening · Categorized: Travel

Jul 03 2016

Silence is golden, speaking from your heart is priceless

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Jun 29 2016

Why is two years the limit for a plan to clear up your debt?

The back story

So, things got rough in about 2009.  I discovered that I was heavily in debt, with very little to show for it.  I had some interesting discussions at home about this.  The result of the discussion was that the responsibility to manage the bills shifted to me now.  I decided to pay off the debt.

Start Playing Defense, make a budget

So, I dove in and made a plan on a spreadsheet to track our cash flow each month including paydays for the month and a list of  every monthly payment amount, due date, and balance.   Then I assigned each one of those payments to a payday for that month to try to make sure things got paid with some money left.   I listened to Dave Ramsey quite a bit at the time, and was applying the “debt snowball” to my plan.  Things were going OK after about 3 months and my confidence was improving that we would have this mess cleared up in about 3 years.  Well, just about that time, I was notified that everyone in our company who made more than $50K per year would be getting a pay cut.   If you understand how the debt snowball works, its easy to see that any decrease in your income can really extend the payoff plan for your debt, so you have to take action immediately or change your plan.

Start Playing Offense-Immediate actions!

Deal with lenders

The day after I found out about my pay cut, I made a list of all the credit cards I had, and contacted each of those companies to tell them about my salary cut, and try to work on a plan to reduce interest and minimum payment requirements so I could pay off faster or at least stay current if I received another pay cut in the future.  Some of the credit card companies were very receptive, and some tried to sell me credit counseling services, even though I was current on all my accounts and merely wanted to discuss options to change the terms of the account.  I will tell you that this exercise gave me extreme clarity about which companies I would pay first if my finances took another hit, and which companies would be at the back of the line.

Increase your income

That night, I made a list of every person I had ever worked with who might be able to use me for some project work.  I also went online looking for cold-call leads in Craigslist for software  and computer gigs.  The following day, I contacted everyone on my list during my lunch break.  I need to get another income source so I am protected from my employer’s decisions to reduce my pay.

Follow your gut, and believe in your plan

When asked me how I was going to grow a consulting business this way…working on it very part time, starting from zero, it seemed like something unlikely to succeed.  It may have been false confidence to cover my frustration at the situation, or even fear because of how vulnerable I felt after getting my pay cut with no warning.  Regardless of the motivation, I answered this:  “I will seek out 10 new clients this year that will hire me to do work.  Of those 10 clients, 2 will be worth doing business with a second time.  While I am doing repeat business with those 2 clients, I will seek out 10 more clients that will hire me to do work for them, and 2 of those will be worth doing business with again.  In 3 years, I will have 5 or 6 decent clients, or 2 really good, steady clients and will have 30% or more of my income provided by consulting work.”  I do not know where that answer came from, but it seemed to be percolating in me for some time, and just came out at that moment.

Outcomes from the plan

Growing the consulting business actually worked!  And pretty closely to what I planned!  I was making some good money.  Did I do anything wrong?  You bet I did.   In hindsight, I lost a bit of my focus on paying off the bills as fast as possible, and for the first time I was able to do a few extra nice things with my family.  In hindsight, I probably felt excited that my entrepreneurial activities were letting me keep up a lifestyle and I did not mind working if it protected my kids from what I considered to be pain or sacrifice.  The result is that I stretched out my over-working period to about 5 years instead of the original plan of 3.

Lessons Learned in Hindsight

What should I have done?  I should have cut our activities, sold more of our belongings, and cut out luxury things much more aggressively so that I could pay things off in no more than 2 years.  I think that any mature adult can change their habits for 2 years to achieve a goal.  After 2 years though, something happens.  In that third year, your schedule and work habits start to change you.  The excessive work starts to feel normal.  The time spent working instead of taking downtime with your family and friends starts to make your relationships a little less warm and close.  You also become less patient with people, because you really do not have time for a lot of nonsense.

After 4 years, I wondered at times if I am going to achieve the original goal at all, but I could not afford to stop the crazy schedule. I had way too many irons in the fire and I was used to having a lot of extra money in the cash flow.  I did not feel like I could afford to stop working so much, as it took a long time to get this consulting business going.  I noticed that I did not laugh anymore.  I also did not cry.  I just worked.

During this time frame, I worked a day job in excess of 45 hours per week (sometimes 55-60 hours for day job), plus I had multiple, mostly solo projects running. This required an additional 15-30 hours every week of additional time.  So for almost 5 years, I had been working an average of 60-70 hours a week, while not missing my kids sporting events, and eating dinner at home most nights.  My sleep was very bad during this time, I abused coffee in a grotesque manner, and drank a bit too much on the late nights.  I did not drink to get drunk or lacked control, its just that I went from drinking maybe 2 beers a month most of my adult life to drinking too many nights while finishing the work.  I was numbing whatever I was feeling so I could finish this one last cycle of projects.

When I hit the 5th year, I started firing my clients, unless I loved what I was doing for them, or the bill rate was very high and I could not resist.  I started to change my focus away from giving myself consulting jobs to do, and toward finding a business that would scale better than me working 24 hours a day.

I did the best I could given my experience and self-awareness at the time, but if I had to do it over again, I would have cut everything out of my lifestyle and simplified first….then I would have worked my ass off for a much shorter time to fix my money problems.  I would love to be able to take my 10 and 7 year old kids camping one more weekend, but they are 15 and 12 now, and you never get that time back.  This is not a pity party either…I was there for my kids, and I had to pay off the bills while I was able to work so much, but I would have done it differently knowing what I know now.  At the time of writing this, I am still waiting for my internal creativity and natural fire to return to me.  I am surrounding myself with people I like being around, doing more things I like, and taking time to feel all the things I stuffed down and worked through for all of those years.

 

 

Written by midlifeawakening · Categorized: Personal Finance, Self improvement

Jun 24 2016

Mirrors

Your appearance is reflected in a mirror, how well you think is reflected in your writing, your character is reflected in your friends.

Written by midlifeawakening · Categorized: Mike's Maxims

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